As the year winds to a close and the winter ahead looms on the horizon, you may be stumbling your way through the holiday season like many of us. Between parties with friends, family, and coworkers, events of all kinds throughout the community, and even just your own rituals for getting into the holiday spirit, there’s plenty to take on and sort out. Add navigating all of this with a partner and potentially splitting time between visiting each others families and it’s a miracle some couples manage to get through it at all.
Of course, things don’t need to be so difficult. Our simple chimp brains can often over analyze situations that aren’t as complicated as we initially make them out to be, this leads to feelings of being overwhelmed and can help propel anxiety. With proper and adequate planning you can avoid potential panic attacks as well as any possible missteps along the way. As always the team at Luurve is here to help put your mind at ease with some practical tips to help make your holidays just a little less hectic.
This is by far and away the most important tool you can have and use for making navigating the holidays far easier on the both of you. It’s vital for the two of you to have a clear roadmap of what you’re trying to do, who you’re trying to see, and when. The sooner and further out you can mutually map out and come to an agreement on these plans the stronger the two of you can be throughout.
How serious are the two of you in your relationship? Are the two of you making completely separate plans? Are you trying to spend as much time together as possible? Will you be meeting/visiting each other’s families? Will you be spending time with just one of your families or splitting time between the both of yours? Do you need to travel? How will you be getting there? These are all vital points to consider and barely scratch the surface of what you’ll need to go over with your partner.
Disclosure can help you maintain your composure. It’s important for you and your partner to have continuous conveyance so the two of you know exactly what you’re doing and what the each of expect from any given situation. Alongside proper preparation constant communication can be one of the most important tools you can have for getting through this together.
Be mindful of others. If the two of you are planning to attend friends and family events as a couple it’s not only important discuss boundaries and expectations beforehand, but to make it clear to each other and the hosts of the events you’re coming together.
Boundaries help establish expectations for behavior. Maybe your typical level of PDA isn’t appropriate in front of Nana who is side-eyeing you from the corner, or maybe your significant other has a hard time holding their liquor and needs a gentle reminder to be mindful of their consumption as well as their conduct.
Make sure you’re both on the same page in regards to what you’re doing, blindsiding your significant other at the last moment to tell them you expect them to join you is simply poor form. Letting your hosts know the two of you are coming together in advance is just common courtesy really. This gives them the space and time to prepare in a both a practical and mental sense for meeting your significant other.
Last but not least some serious time management can be a great tool and ally for you as you navigate this journey with your significant other. After you’ve mapped out exactly where you’re trying to go and who you’re trying to see as we outlined in the previous tip it’s time to figure out exactly how you’re going to actually make and meet all those plans you’ve created.
It’s a good idea to be rigid in your scheduling but flexible in your adherence, the odds of you having your plans moving like clockwork are far slimmer than you’re going to be willing to admit. This is okay, nothing needs to be perfect. Give yourself some wiggle-room before and after whenever you’re supposed to arrive and depart to help account for potential hang-ups that may occur, as well as giving yourself some space to relax and alleviate some of the pressure you’ve been putting on yourself.
Of course life does happen and anything from snow to flat-tires can easily complicate even the most carefully crafted of plans. It’s important for you to not beat yourself up should things not go your way and need to improvise a bit along the way.
As difficult as things may be in the moment these challenges present vital opportunities for your growth as an individual and should you approach things in a level-headed manner can even help strengthen and grow your relationship in ways you may have never anticipated.
Do you have any tips for getting through the holidays as a couple? How about advice for figuring out how to get everything done in such short time? Feel free to let us know down below in the comments below!
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