For many of us, one of the ultimate goals in life is for us to find our prospective soulmate. Unfortunately for many of us, that journey can sometimes be a little more complicated or take a little longer than we would like. Sometimes there are periods in life where we’re single despite our best efforts or intentions, and that’s not always a bad thing.
There’s nothing wrong with being single, and it’s unfortunate that it’s often stigmatized in one way or another. Time with yourself gives you the proper space to grow and thrive, and gives you the proper skills to be independent. While we often focus on how to find a partner and get into a relationship, we often end up overlooking the most important relationship we have: the one with ourselves.
This week the team at Luurve go over some helpful and healthy self-love and self-care tips for being your best self as a single adult, free of the stresses and restrictions of relationships to be able to grow and thrive at your highest potential.
Love Yourself First
Above everything else, whether you’re in a relationship or not, there’s nothing more important than truly loving and being at peace with yourself and who you are as a person. Besides, how are you ever supposed to truly love another person when you don’t even love yourself in the first place?
Take this time to truly hone and master the art of self-love. Discover who you are, build your self-confidence, take up new skills and hobbies, do literally anything your heart desires. Your sense of self-worth shouldn’t be tied to another person or your relationship status, you need to build yourself into the best version of yourself you can be. Once you love yourself you’ll finally be free to love other people.
Who Are You?
A major component of self-love is self-discovery through truly finding who you are as an individual. While people often use the time their single as simply a time for finding another partner, allow me to propose the idea that it’s far more important to find yourself first. This is an opportunity for some of the most impactful growth you may ever experience, if you can thrive on your own imagine how far you can go with a partner.
Expand your taste in music, take up an instrument, go to more concerts. Start doodling, study art history, learn how to paint from Bob Ross. Go hiking, add some discipline to your diet, hit the gym. Make new friends, take up a language, go travel the world. Whatever you choose to do use this time as an opportunity to not only focus on yourself, but on finding yourself as well.
Comfort In Solitude
When was the last time you’ve gone out by yourself? If this sounds like a completely foreign concept that you’ve never even truly considered before this advice may be most important to you. As a society we tend to stigmatize the concept of being alone and finding comfort in solitude. This isn’t to say that you need to start going out to high-end restaurants by yourself and stare into your soup as you avoid glancing at all the couples out on date night, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with being able to go seek out your own happiness without needing other people to do it. This isn’t a call to introvertism either, but for example, try expanding your social circle and consider alternative methods such as events and meetups as a method to do so. Whether that’s heading out to the bar on your own or just being able to comfortably hang out at home by yourself, being able to be comfortable as well as creating and cherishing your own happiness is a skill many people often lack today.
Don’t Worry, Be Happy
While we’ve been preaching overwhelming positivity and optimism throughout this article, we more than understand the realities of being a single adult in the real world. As happy as you can be on your own, companionship is always appreciated and loneliness does happen despite our best efforts. When these moments occur it’s important to maintain a level head so you don’t make any hasty decisions and wind up with someone you ultimately shouldn’t be with.
Be more socially active, consider reconnecting with old friends or even connecting with new ones. Know that you’re not alone, the average age of marriage and having children has been steadily rising, and as the stigma around being single continues to crumble as larger numbers of people begin to embrace themselves and their individuality. While it can certainly be difficult at times, you’ll benefit so much more over the long term if you can truly nurture yourself to be able to thrive on your own.
When the time comes when you’re ready to get back out into the world of dating and begin to explore love again, it’s a great idea to be the best person you can be so you can attract the best partner you possibly can. Don’t allow a longing to not be lonely put you in a bad situation with a bad person.
Are you looking to date around or settle down with a soulmate? Evaluate what’s important to you in a partner and be honest with yourself. Have standards, don’t settle, you deserve to be happy and share that happiness with someone special. If you’re feeling desperate that’s probably the most important time to stay single, never hastily jump into the first relationship you can.
Any tips you live by for being single and happy? How do you keep a level head when loneliness occurs? Feel free to let us know down below in the comments, we would love to hear from you!
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